Sunday, August 10, 2014

Ask the Lazy Girl: College Advice

Dear Lazy Girl,

I will start college this fall, and I'm kind of anxious and scared. Any tips on college, studying, or anything you would say to your younger self?


Orly of Coffee Beans and High Heels

Hi Orly,

First off, thanks for the question! When I read it, I tried my best to get back into the mindset of my 18 year old self: nervous, excited, and obsessively making packing lists. College is a huge chunk of your life, so there's a lot of advice to be given, but I'll boil things down to a few key points.

Get out of your comfort zone
It may seem like by leaving home you're already doing this, but I think it's important to remind yourself to keep doing it every day. Never stop trying to make new friends. Join whatever student organization interests you. Take a challenging class you think sounds really interesting. Actually talk to and get to know the people in your classes. All of that will make your four years much more full of life and fun than if you spend it watching Netflix and going to parties full of the same people you met the first weekend in the freshmen dorms.
Eat things that are not french fries
Seriously. My freshman year our cafeteria had fries EVERY. DAY. Meaning my meal plan was essentially paying for hundreds of pounds of potatoes annually. As tempting as it is, maybe sometimes get a salad?
Don't tie yourself down
I mean this in multiple ways. On the first day of one of my classes freshman year, our professor gave us this advice, and it really rings true. Don't tie yourself down to a person, or a place, or a particular path. Dating in college is fun, but don't get so entrenched in something that you forget to have all the fun you possibly can with friends and other experiences. Additionally, don't tie yourself to one place–– be open to travel, and study abroad, and even to living somewhere else entirely come graduation. Finally, don't tie yourself down to an idea of what your life should be that you had at age 18. Looking back, I wish I had gone into college undecided–– I changed my mind about my path about a million times, and I'm still changing it. People are ever-evolving, so don't pigeonhole yourself!
Figure out what it is you love, and do that
Use college as a time to explore your options. I went through a million different kinds of writing in college figuring out what type it is I like best. Don't feel like you have to always have it figured out, just go with the things that make you happy. Believe me, it's a lot easier to work hard at something you love doing than it is with something you're doing because you think it's what you're supposed to do. Take advantages of the cool opportunities college provides you, like internships and electives, and figure out what it is you care about.
Oh, and take lots of naps. Post-college world does not integrate enough nap time, in my opinion.

Thursday, August 7, 2014

The Lazy Girl Guide to Hot Guys with Beards

I love a good beard more than I love most things. On the list of things that make me happiest when it comes to guys, it's safe to say facial hair cracks the top ten. As hard as I try I don't really care about hockey, but I am a big fan of the playoff beard and was heartbroken to see the men of Chicago simultaneously shed them this past season.

So for all the beard-lovers like me out there, I give you the top ten all-time best beards in Hollywood. Because nothing makes a dude hotter than looking a little bit like a mountain man. 

10. Emile Hirsch

9. Liam Hemsworth

8. Ewan McGregor

7. John Legend

6. Jon Hamm

5. Zayn Malik

4. James Franco

3. Jake Gylenhaal

2. Garrett Hedlund

1. Chris Pine

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

The 5 Best Things About Sorority Sisterhood

5 Best Things About Sorority Sisterhood
Guest post from Amy over at A Greek Concept

Being a part of a sorority sisterhood is truly unlike any other experience in life. Even the bond of siblinghood can’t compare to the endless hours, trials, laughter, tears, and experiences that sorority sisters endure together. Only those who have taken the bold step into PanHellenic life really understand the intensity of their commitment, and the immense plethora of things they learn throughout their whole lives because of their sisterly bond. We hope these 5 best things about sorority sisterhood will convince you to join, or change your mind about what being a sorority girl is really all about.

A Home Away From Home
When you’re a tiny freshman embarking on the scariest adventure of your life it’s 100% natural to wish for a place to call home. Once you’ve gone through rush and found out where you’ll pledge, you are INSTANTLY enveloped into a group of hundreds of girls who are excited about welcoming you home. This feeling of “belonging” when you’re so lost in a sea of thousands of people is unlike anything else. What you learn about hospitality during this time is incredible – not to mention you have access to 60+ closets and never have to worry about what to wear. Holler!

      Learning About People & Life – Together
Never have you been granted such an opportunity to be meshed together with people of varying personalities, talents, traits, and opinions. You learn to adapt and cling to what you believe while being challenged. The amazing thing is that your sisters also respect and support you in what you think, learn, and decide for yourself! You learn from each other’s experiences whether they’re directly related to you or not. Maybe your best friend’s dad dies while you’re living in the house together. You hold back from judging her getting a bit too drunk every night, hold her close as she cries, and help her to pick back up every time she stumbles. Maybe you experience your parents getting divorced while you’re in college, and your sisters surround you with encouraging notes, tons of distraction, and always a few hands to hold. These experiences make the whole house of sisters stronger and better.

      Someone With You Every Step of the Way
When you make your jump out of the house/nest, you have a big and grand-big there to help you advise you on the scary road. You have a million people supporting you as you leap into real life. Wherever you end up, your sisters are right behind you, surrounding you, and often you can find a few in your city who are instantaneous friends!

      Being Part of a Legacy
Forever and always you wear your letters. You never grow out of the circle of friends, or the bigger legacy you belong to. Constantly surrounded, supported, and loved by hundreds of sisters. Forever.

      Gives You Purpose
Every sorority has a mission/value/purpose statement – a reason to BE. This reason and purpose never leaves those who are influenced by it, and who take up the cause wholeheartedly. Forever and always a sorority sisterhood fights for the purpose to which they pledged.

Amy Furrow is the owner of A Greek Concept an online retailer of licensed Greek merchandise. She’s got drive, heart, and passion – something Greek life is all about. From Sorority picture frames, tote bags, and jewelry, as well as Fraternity coolers, glassware, and travel accessories; A Greek Concept is filled to the brim with options for every Sorority sister or Fraternity brother. 

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Life is What Happens While You're Busy Making Other Plans

I've spent my life making plans.

As a kid, I read every book I could get my hands on about dogs–– I planned to be a vet. When I was getting ready to start high school, I spent hours poring over all the electives, planning out the classes I would take for the next four years. When it came time to apply to college, I had a strict plan of where I would go and what I'd do when I got out of school–– where I'd live, where I'd go to grad school, how much money I'd be making.

Guess what? None of those plans happened.

I don't say that bitterly–– they didn't happen because for whatever reason, I chose to forge a different path than the one I'd initially planned. I made a new plan, and then another new plan, and then another. And deviating from "the plan" has brought me some of the best people and experiences of my life.

When you're young, people love to ask what your plan is. As someone who's just finishing up my Bachelor's degree now, I can't tell you how many times in recent months I've been asked what my plans are for post-grad. We're taught to have all of our ducks in a row, to always know what's next.

Well, this is me officially throwing plan-making out the window.

I'm not saying I'm going to totally fly by the seat of my pants in life or anything–– I like to think enough ahead to know I'll make rent, thank you very much. But I think there's a difference between having a plan and having goals, and goals are something I have plenty of. Goals give you focus, and they give you an outlet for your passions. All too often, plans are the little things that just hinder growth–– you're so worried about sticking to the prescribed plan that you miss amazing opportunities that lead you away from the rigid path.

So why spend my life making a plan just to change it? At least while I'm young, why not just do the things that make me happy and see where that takes me? It may get me a side-eye from a relative at my college graduation party to say I'm not entirely sure where I see myself in five years, but hell. If you asked me five years ago what I thought my life would be like now, it would probably be a very different picture.

So my plan, for the moment, is to be 22 and to be happy. It's going pretty well so far.

Sunday, July 27, 2014

What I'm Loving This Week

The re-binge-watch
It's summer–– the time of cookouts, beach days, and sitting in the AC watching Netflix (a personal favorite). That's why I've recently been all about re-binge-watching (a term I have just made up) some of my favorite shows. Right now it's The Office, which has been both a great and terrible decision. Great because The Office is one of the best shows that's been on television, and terrible because I've been forcing Jim and Pam into conversation like it's 2008 again. It may be getting weird?
How to Succeed in Business Without Really Crying
You might not know the name Carol Leifer, but odds are you've watched one of the shows she's written for. From Seinfeld to a brief stint on Saturday Night Live to Modern Family, Leifer's been the brains behind some of the best television comedy in the business. That's why it's no surprise that her collection of essays is just as funny as she is. And aside from just the humor, she gives great life advice–– as someone who'd love to have a career like hers it was an eye-opening read, but most of what she said would translate into almost any field. She was one of the first women in the boys club of comedy, and it's clear that she's gained a lot of wisdom from it. And lucky for us she's inclined to share.

Chicago summers
There's nothing quite like Chicago in the summertime. Between the beach (which, to be fair, isn't ocean adjacent or anything–– but Chicagoans make do with what we've got), all of the beautiful parks, and the endless list of awesome festivals, there's honestly no better place to be. I continued a 22-year long tradition by attending this year's Taste of Chicago, and started a new one by hitting up the first annual Comedy Exposition. Whatever it is you like to do, Chicago's got you covered.
Chris Pratt
Chris Pratt could do nothing in life aside from playing Andy Dwyer on Parks and Rec and I'd still love him, but he seemingly keeps getting better. He has had a meteoric ascent to hotness that I can't really mentally process, and apparently he's also awesome at french braiding, which we can add to the list of things Chris Pratt does better than me (right behind general life enthusiasm and playing the guitar). 

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Why Elle Woods is the Ultimate Role Model

Some of you may be thrown off by the title of this post. I get it–– when you think of Legally Blonde, you think of pink and glitter and dogs in purses. You probably don't think of what a kickass role model Elle Woods is.

But bear with me here–– Elle Woods can teach us all some valuable life lessons.

You need to be your number one fan

Elle didn't have a lot of people in her corner when she decided to go to law school, and that's life. Sometimes you're going to want to do things, and people will tell you that you can't accomplish them. But what did Elle do? She proved them wrong, because she had faith in herself. So don't wait for someone else to tell you that you can do it–– at risk of sounding like a Nike ad, just do it. 

Don't get too caught up in what people think of you

Throughout my school career, people have made certain assumptions about me. In high school, it was that a cheerleader couldn't be in an honors class. In college, it was that a sorority girl couldn't possibly also be an intellectual. People will constantly try to tell you that you can't love fashion, or watch E! news, and still be able to talk politics or pull a 4.0. Elle Woods kicks those outdated stereotyping attitudes in the ass by being a genius lawyer who also happens to know her designers. Who cares what anyone else thinks?

Sometimes, the guy isn't worth the trouble

Elle's Harvard journey may have started because of a guy, but it evolves to so much more than that. Realizing that her ex-boyfriend wasn't the end-all-be-all she'd thought he was turned out to be a real lesson in self-worth for Elle, and watching her go through that taught tons of movie-goers that it's better to better yourself for you than to impress someone else.

Hard work pays off–– big time

Elle never expected to have anything handed to her. From the moment she decided to go to law school, she studied her ass off to get in. And once she was in, she worked even harder to secure her dream internship. Good things don't happen to people just because they're lucky, they happen because those people are working hard every day to get there. 

Friday, July 18, 2014

Ask the Lazy Girl: Boys, Boys, Boys

Dear Lazy Girl,

What advice do you have for single Lazy Girls looking for a guy?


That College Girl

Dear That College Girl,

This is a great question! As we all know, it's tough out there in the dating world. And while you'll occasionally hear an adorable story about a couple that met at a farmer's market or spin class or something, the reality is that it's not that easy to fall into your own little rom-com.

Luckily, technology is here for us Lazy Girls. You can now find a man without leaving the comfort of your blanket cocoon thanks to Tinder, Grouper, OKCupid, etc, etc. I can't make you any guarantees about the quality of guys you'll be virtually "meeting," but swiping left and right is at least something to entertain you while you wait in line at the grocery store. There's something to be said for sifting through dozens of available men while you watch OITNB with your roommate and eat egg rolls.

If you're feeling especially motivated to shed your lazy skin and really get out there and meet a better quality of dudebro than can be found in the abyss of dating apps, consider hitting up events/places you like where you might meet someone of similar interests. It's not that much work, since you're frequenting places you would anyway, and it's better than getting a gym membership you don't want just to impress some guys in tank tops. So if you like books? Scope out males at your favorite bookstores. A big fan of baseball? Watch a game at a bar where other like-minded fans might strike up a conversation.

Best of luck on your man hunt!