Tuesday, April 1, 2014


Conceited. Cocky. Arrogant. Full of yourself.

Traditionally, we think of these as negative adjectives. But I'm here to make a case for why loving yourself doesn't have to be bad.

It seems like in society today, you can never win. If you're overly self deprecating with low self-esteem, you seem weak. If you talk up your skills and accomplishments, you're braggy. We want women to think they're beautiful, yet people make fun when someone posts a selfie. So what's a girl to do?

But I think it's possible to swap out the word conceited for "believing in oneself." After all, you aren't going to achieve much if you sit in interviews talking yourself down. You're going to be a part of some unhealthy relationships if you don't hold yourself to a high standard of how you should be treated. And self-doubt will eat you alive if you don't occasionally tell yourself you're the best at whatever it is you do.

So while you don't want to be that guy who's constantly talking about how awesome he is, it's encouraged to be that way in certain situations. Writing a cover letter? Go crazy talking yourself up. Meeting with a mentor? Let them know everything you've been up to lately. Even if you're just catching up with friends, don't feel like you need to dull your accomplishments. The people in your life should be happy for you.

First and foremost, though, it's important to believe you're the best in your own mind. If you don't think you can do it, no one else will either. So whether you want to be on Broadway or want to start your own company, recognize your skills and what makes you unique. It's okay to give yourself a pat on the back when you do something right.

So don't say "Oh, I'd like to start my own medical practice one day, but we'll see." Be bold with your goals, and share them. Find out who the best people in your industry are, and compare yourself to them. Work to get on the same level as those who are already "the best." With a lot of hard work and belief in yourself, you can get to where they are. So if someone calls you conceited, you really don't have to feel bad about it..

1 comment:

  1. Primadonna Girl! :D

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    Katherine @ Nested Thoughts